Early Years In Marriage

Meeting the one who ticks all the boxes can be fulfilling. The thoughts of spending life with them can be exciting . But then, you should bear in mind that it is not gonna be rosy all the time. The first year in marriage is mostly spent for most people, getting to know each other deeply in all areas. The weaknesses and the strength of each person. The mushy feeling of love is still there, therefore, you may not seem to mind these “weaknesses’. You tend to overlook a lot when it’s just the two of you.

By second or end of first year, there’s a 90% chance of a new addition to the family. The stress of combining wifely duties, motherly duties with work or business, it becomes overwhelming that those weaknesses that wasn’t a big deal before begins to become one. Before you know it, you begin to snap at each other, you get angry easily sometimes or provoked and this feeling of resentment sets in.

This continues to the third, fourth…..year. At some point, you’ll just have to face the reality that this is who this person is. You’ll need lots of patience, see it as your cross, especially if it’s something that cannot be changed overnight. Only then can you be at peace with your partner, most times tho.

That is why it is advised not to think you can change someone in marriage. If it’s not something you can live with or tolerate. Don’t think you change him\her, you are not the Holy Spirit because, after wedding, reality sets in.